It can be very difficult and painful to come to terms with the fact that someone you love may not love you enough to fight for the relationship. However, it is important to remember that love is not enough to sustain a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Both partners need to be committed to making it work and willing to put in the effort and work through challenges together.
If your partner is not willing to fight for the relationship, it may be a sign that he is not fully invested or committed to you. While it is imperative to communicate your feelings and concerns with your partner, it is also critical to recognize when it is time to move on and focus on your own well-being. For instance, if your partner doesn't try to resolve issues or take steps to make the relationship better after expressing your concerns, it may be time to re-evaluate the relationship.
Here are other common signs to indicate it might be time to part ways:
Lack of trust: Trust is a two-way street. Either one of you does not trust the other person, the relationship will not sustain. Neither one of you should be constantly trying to find ways to earn trust or to prove innocence.
Different values and life goals: Oftentimes women would choose to settle and tolerate the differences. When couples aren’t holding the same value, it’s the beginning of falling apart and resulting in constant arguments. When most of the life goals aren’t aligned, it’s like living on two frequencies FM and AM – that forever run in parallel but never cross paths.
Emotional drain: The behavior of your partner constantly makes you feel drained. Or, your partner constantly snaps at you or takes frustration out on you when having a bad day. Apologizing each time for a repeated behavior does not grant him/her any brownie points either.
Lack of interest in you: When your partner isn’t keen on listening to what you have to say, your ideas, thoughts, opinions, they aren’t in for a relationship. It shows your partner does not want to be part of your personal growth.
Make no effort to sustain the relationship: This is when your partner does not want to communicate when issues arise, or negotiate, or find solutions. We all deserve someone who fights for us and the relationship.
Kahlil Gibran once wrote: “If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were.”
Therefore, take the brave step to set yourself free and make room for someone who will fight for you and your relationship just as much as you do. We can all gain perspective from these words and learn that our worth should never be compromised in the pursuit of love. However, some may argue that giving up too easily in relationships is a sign of weakness and that true love requires fighting for what you want. They may argue that if you love someone, you should be willing to do anything to make the relationship work. The truth is, we all know when it's time, and when it's enough. We just need to be true to ourselves.